Effective discipline is difficult, even when we’ve been working with the same child day in and day out since the beginning of the child’s life. How much more difficult it must be, then, to effectively discipline children who are quite literally dropped at your doorstep one day. At best, foster children are coming from environments where expectations and guidance were inconsistent, but the “at worst” could be and probably is much, much worse. How do you discipline these children with love and understanding?
“Some people will say that your foster child has experienced so much trauma or been so affected by drugs that they “can’t” behave a certain way. SO false. Will it take longer to learn? Possibly. Will it be frustrating for everyone involved? Probably. But can they learn eventually? Absolutely. We are raising these people to be adults in a real world someday, and no excuse, no matter how valid, will work. You have been entrusted with these humans for a short time or maybe forever, and while they’re yours, you should teach them well. Set the bar high and help them reach it. Stay the course and be consistent, and, Lord willing, you’ll find some method of discipline that works. Discipline, even for kids from hard places, is one of the most loving things you can do. The end game of consistent discipline is so worth it. It provides structure and predictability, which makes kids who have likely never had stability, feel safe and secure.”
And come back each day this week for more posts on discipline.