Today Kimberly at Team Cartwright is offering some suggestions for dealing with tantrums, including the encouragement to identify and talk about the feelings behind the tantrum. This allows the parent to address the heart, not simply the behavior.
Yep, I am one of those moms who spends a lot of time talking about feelings. When my son is melting down I try my best not to respond to just his actions, but to really get to the heart of why he is having the tantrum. I know, it sounds crazy to think a two or three year old can get into the reasoning behind how they are behaving. I don’t expect a total introspection session or anything, but I have seen that taking the time to help my child think through the whys does impact future behavior. Slowly he is learning to self regulate. My ultimate goal is to help my children become adults who can recognize and respect how they feel, without letting those feelings control them.
Read the rest of her post here, and come back tomorrow for two more posts on discipline – including mine on discipline delay tactics and first time obedience.
discipline delay tactics
CHRONICLES OF A BABYWISE MOM
DISCPLINE WITHOUT SPANKING
DISCIPLINE AS DISCIPLESHIP
MAMA’S ORGANIZED CHAOS
KNOWING AND TEACHING THE FINAL DESIRED EXPECTATION
BIG FEELINGS: TALKING THROUGH TANTRUMS WITH YOUR CHILD
JOURNEY OF PARENTHOOD
WHEN IGNORING IS A BENEFICIAL PARENTING TOOL
LET’S BE BRAVE
DISCIPLINE IN FOSTER CARE